married life of 46 years

My husband and I got married on the 6th of December 1962. We knew each other before this for eight years. I was his junior in the university, in Singapore. We kept ourselves close by writing a lot of love letters to each other. Unfortunately, our love letters got lost in one of our several moving houses over the years. My husband was so good in writing letters. He expressed  his love for me better in letters than he ever could do in person. 

When i was a girl in school I used to silently prayed to God to let me have a good husband, one who is responsible and could take good care of me. Well, God answered my prayers. My husband turned out to be a very responsible person until today.

My husband takes very good care of me. He does all the marketing and buying all the provisions for the family. He even used to buy me clothes and jewellery. Even better he sometimes does the cooking especially when we entertain family members. Earlier in our marriage he even volunteered to pay my income tax and allowed me to keep to myself my salaries. I really feel very blessed with having someone so caring in my life.

As I said God answered my prayer , so He gave me a very responsible man for a life partner. So I cannot expect my man to be other than that. He is  not a  very sociable person and prefers the company of few close friends than a bigger social gatherings. He is rather shy with women and prefers to stay home and allows me to go and travel all over the world with friends. At the moment I am in Aberdeen visiting my daughter and her family while he stays home in Malaysia. He hates long distance travels. We remain in close contact via the phone SMS.

I know I am his only close friend. We play golf together, it used to be often but now mostly just once a week. He shares whatever he reads,(he reads all the serious stuff) and I tell him all about my travel adventures. Most of my friends are becoming his close friends too. We enjoy going out for lunches outside once or twice a week. He attends to his garden while I attend to my painting. I am currently doing oil paintings.

I think what sustain us all these years is that we have learned to accept one another as we are and not have any other expectations of each other. He allows me to be Me and I allow him to be Himself.

I pray that the year 2009 will continue to be agood year for the both of us.